I thought it might be a good time to invite a little retrospective on last Sunday. In the United States, on the secular calendar, it was Mother’s Day. And in many of the dioceses of the United States (though not all) it was Ascension on the liturgical calendar, a major feast of the Church year. In some dioceses on the other hand, we celebrated the Seventh Sunday of Easter. The gospel reading was that famous passage from the farewell discourse of St. John’s gospel, in which Jesus prays that his disciples may all be one. There was also the dramatic story of the stoning of Stephen. Mother’s Day, Ascension, Christian unity, martyrdom… How did the different thematic foci play out in your parish liturgy?
From my tongue-in-cheek reference to “the solemnity of Mother’s Day” in the title of this post, you already know or suspect that I think the secular celebration is often overblown. So let me begin by saying I’m all in favor of Mother’s Day. I think it’s a sound pastoral practice to warmly acknowledge Mother’s Day in church. The Book of Blessings supplies us with prayers. I have no problem at all with using them. Yet I wonder whether the right balance is always struck in our celebrations. Do the mysteries of faith continue to stand at the center of all we do, or do we fall into a Hallmark card piety because it’s easy, and “that’s what people want.”
At my parish yesterday, the songleader wished us a happy Mother’s Day. The priest wished us a happy Mother’s Day and made some remarks on that subject as the celebration began. He preached on unity, but general thoughts on Mother’s Day began and ended his homily. We prayed for mothers in the intentions. The songleader announced a hymn to Mary at the preparation of the altar and “dedicated” it to all mothers. Mothers were invited up front for a blessing at the end of Mass. More remarks about motherhood, from the priest, then followed, before the final blessing. In short, there was a lot of focus on Mother’s Day.
They meant well, and I’m sure it was kindly received. But something was missing, it seemed to me. There was very little paschal mystery in any of this. That we love our mothers and they work hard, this came up. That the vocation to Christian motherhood is linked to the Passion and Resurrection of Jesus and to our common call to discipleship did not. The notion that the mystery of Jesus somehow touches and transforms our cultural inheritance didn’t really come up either. Is that because… it doesn’t?
I believe there are sound pastoral reasons why vocation, discipleship, Passion, Resurrection, and transformation need to come up. This is our faith. This is what sustains Christian mothers on their journey, and what links us all. I’ve known women who for various reasons couldn’t have children, and very much wanted to, who feel the pain of loss or exclusion on this day. I’ve known mothers whose experience is one of carrying a heavy cross as their children struggle with addictions or illnesses or loss of faith. Thanks or congratulations are nice, but they are in this for bigger stakes. The joyful and close-knit families are there along with ones who are broken and sorrowful. What is big enough to hold all of these varied experiences together? The dying and rising of the Lord, nothing less.
So here is my question. What do you think is the right balance, and was it achieved in your parish this past Sunday?
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