Here is a video transcript of a wedding consultation. Sound familiar?
Wedding consultation
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7 responses to “Wedding consultation”
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This is brilliant. Absolutely brilliant. Like looking in a mirror.
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In some respects, this is like watching the war between Nazi Germany and Soviet Russia. On the one hand, we have the clueless bride more interested in producing a spectacular show piece than in planning a Catholic wedding. On the other hand, we have the liturgist quoting the rules and regulations imposed from above.
Weddings aren’t the only occasions that the caretakers find themselves in conflict with the owners/customers. We have the annual wringing of hands over ever more expensive First Communion dresses bought for children who will not be seen in Church again until Confirmation; at which point the concern will be plunging necklines and rising hemlines.
We also are increasingly seeing arguments over proper music for a funeral, whether eulogies should be banned, and even appropriate tomb stones!Offer guidance, draw the line on health and safety issues (such as live doves released inside a building), then take a deep breathe and offer up your chagrin for the poor souls in Purgatory. For you, this is just one more Wedding/First Communion/funeral. For the people involved, this is one of the most important events in their lives!
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Been there, done that.
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Been there, done that – I don’t know whether to laugh
or cry! At my own parish, where I have the major say,
it has gotten better over the years. So we must be reinforcing the right stuff! -
I’d say that overall, it is getting better. Couples, especially brides, come with fewer outlandish suggestions. Maybe the horrific episodes on Bridezillas are making a subtle impact.
I tell couples up front that I have their best interests at heart. I explain the sacramental and spiritual nature of a church wedding. I speak of ideals in a worship situation. I assume their good will. Most people listen.
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Interesting responses, considering recent reports of dramatic declines in the number of Catholic couples getting married in church. Could it be that the ones who aren’t able to understand the sacramental nature just aren’t showing up on our doorstep anymore? If so, that might make our jobs easier, but at what cost?
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Couldn’t have been more timely. I received an email today from a bride’s wedding coordinator about having an Alanis Morrissette song for the procession and having the flower girls dance down the aisle.
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