Thanks to Timothy Johnston, who called my attention to this intriguing article over at U. S. Catholic.
Matt and I strongly considered asking to have our marriage celebrated at the 5:30 pm Sunday mass that we had been attending together for three years, at which we were lectors, eucharistic ministers, and active in the RCIA and Newman Club. We did not, for no better reason than that we did not know anyone who had done it, and thus did not know how to handle the pragmatics of it. We had a 7:30 pm Saturday mass instead, which fulfilled the mass obligation, and we invited away perhaps a quarter of the regular Sunday 5:30 pm assembly (including a considerable part of the choir who asked to attend and ministered at our wedding, which deeply moved us!).
If I had it to plan again (though on the whole, I’m really glad I don’t have to), I would at least ask. We needed the assembly there to witness our vows. We were blessed to have such a large part of our worshipping assembly with us, but to have it at our regular Sunday mass would have been an especially powerful symbol of the importance of that place and those people in the formation of our relationship.
On the related topic of using the readings from the regular liturgical calendar, we did not do this for our wedding, but we did for our son’s baptism, which took place six years ago today on the 23rd Sunday in Ordinary Time. Having the readings recur every three years is a deep pleasure I did not foresee. Ephphetha!